Marriage of the Types

How our childhoods shape us and how we respond, etc.
Which sparked the quandary, "How do the types respond?" How do the types respond to _____.

Which further solidifies my feeling that marriages should more often be analyzed based on types.

I think the fault of marriage books is that they tend to to lead based on gender, while helpful to a point, seem completely unhelpful to marriages like mine which appear "ass backwards".

What are the stereotypes? It's too general to say "women are irrational" (ever meet a female INTP? I have. Bitch please.) or  that "men don't want commitment" (Ever met a male ISFJ? Known for loyalty and lifelong relationships?).
We're left not understanding eachother. All we are told is that Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars, and then simply, "you will fight a lot".

Is this true?
It seems the deeper you dig, the more patterns you cold almost predict.
 What do you think will happen if you throw an INFP with an ISFJ?
What do you think will happen if you put two low conflict types together?
A nurturing type with a feeler? How about a feeler with a thinker?
What other components factor in to an extroverted/introverted relationship?

For an INFP and ISFJ, an example of advice might be: "A major challenge for your relationship may be to practice assertiveness with others", "set boundaries early and don't over schedule", and "careful to not let take advantage of his giving nature".
For thinkers and feelers, to be patient and understanding of the other. For the introvert and extrovert, to find compromise and make small sacrifices in small incriments.
Sarah spends the movie lying to her family, manipulating everyone around her, and keeping her near fiancee at a distance. Brian knows her son well  the relationship between Sarah and Brian in Saving Sarah Cain.
He understands her and sees through her need to manipulate others for love.